Not many women feel led to share the details of their miscarriages. But as I look back on these last few months, I can’t help but share when I see all that God has done. My desire is that it would shine a light on God’s goodness in our suffering and the reality of miscarriage. I also pray that God would use my words to equip women to help their friends and family who may experience pregnancy loss.
I’ll never forget all the emotions I felt that morning. I had already taken a test on Mother’s Day and saw a faint line but wrote it off as defective. But here I stood, 5 days late holding another pregnancy test. I set it down and declared not to look at it until the full 2 minutes had passed.
I paced in the living room as I waited. Would I be excited or pass out in terror of the road ahead?…
As the fog of grief slowly begins to lift after the loss of our unborn child, I’ve finally had a chance to think through the thoughts that have circulated in my mind for months. The more clearly I see, the more urgency I feel for women to truly understand what happens in the throes of miscarriage.
Prior to experiencing this loss, I had believed many lies regarding it. And as I speak with women around me I see evidence that I’m not the only one.
With 1 in 4 pregnancies ending in miscarriage, it’s imperative that Christian women become educated regarding this heartbreaking topic.
Women need to be equipped to help those suffering miscarriage. Sooner or later, there will be a woman in your life affected by the death of their baby in the womb, and as the Body of Christ, we must know how to bear their burden with them.…
It seems feminism is the new religion of America. Many young Christian women can be found saying, “I love feminism!”
I have to wonder though, does feminism love them back?
Modern day feminism is no longer just about gaining women’s rights. Today’s feminist can be seen applauding other women who kill their baby within the womb and circumventing God’s plan for marriage and sex.
The many voices of feminism scream, “Equality!”…unless you believe differently than them. Sure, they encourage you to follow your dreams…unless you aspire to be a stay at home wife or mom. Then you’re just a “waste of potential.” They yell, “Women’s rights!”…unless, of course, you’re a baby girl in the womb.
Feminism claims to love and support women, but when you dig a bit deeper, you find that to be far from the truth.
Feminism Lies to Women
Recently, with my friend’s wedding on the way, I traveled store to store in search of a dress.…
I recently wrote about how comparison kills friendships within the Church. But what about when our hearts envy those outside of the Body? Should we handle it the same way? Is it okay to envy nonbelievers?
Both psalmists, Asaph and David, walked through some of the feelings we may have when we’re tempted to envy those who don’t serve Christ. And boy did they leave behind some major wisdom in their words for us to apply to our hearts today.
Always at Ease
Asaph starts us off with words that pull on my heart strings.
For I was envious of the arrogant when I saw the prosperity of the wicked. For they have no pangs until death; their bodies are fat and sleek. They are not in trouble as others are; they are not stricken like the rest of mankind. (Psalm 73:3-5 ESV)
Have you ever felt that way? You stare at your seemingly empty hands and look up to see those who spurn God’s name receiving what you want.…
I’ve been learning a lot about the art of rejoicing with others lately. And I’m learning it as I walk through a painful loss in my own life. As I watch friends and family receive what was taken from me, temptation weighs heavy upon my shoulders. It’s a temptation most of us wrestle with and many of us give in to.
I recently wrote about how comparison is really just a glorified word for envy. Comparison comes from a covetous heart. It’s a heart that says, “I want what she has.” or, “Why didn’t God give me that too?”
And it’s damaging to a friendship.
Why Not Me?
At some point in every friendship, there will be one gal who receives what the other has been dreaming of. Whether its a husband, a baby, another baby or an opportunity you want, she has it, and you don’t. And it’s hard.…
There’s a lot of buzz out there about comparison. Instagram is full of little squares that hold quotes about how, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” and, “Flowers don’t look at the flower next to them, they just bloom.”
But we aren’t flowers. We’re people. And we’re women with flaws and a constant desire to look perfect.
We find ourselves comparing everything from our bodies, to our marriages, to how spiritually mature we are.
I know many women would give a mighty “Amen!” to our need to be delivered from the quicksand that is comparison.
But where is deliverance found? Is contentment with what we have and how God made us truly attainable?
More Than a Joy Thief
Contrary to the belief of many, joy isn’t the ultimate goal. And while it’s true that comparison steals that from you, it does something even more damaging.
Comparison is really just a glorified word for envy.…