It all started with that first happily ever after movie, preaching the same old story of perfection found in a prince. He would be dashingly handsome and his charisma would forever sweep me off my feet. We would live, always fully enthralled with each other’s affection and never tempted to glance away.
Or so I thought.
They Lied To Us
Movies and Christian romance novels have lied to us, ladies. So many of us believe that once we find the right “prince,” our affections will never waver and our eyes will never wander. But that’s a lie…and a dangerous one.
Here’s the thing. Saying your vows isn’t like taking a love potion. At some point in your marriage, you will be tempted. We don’t like to talk about these things because of embarrassment, but there’s truth to be heeded here.
It’s no secret that I think my man is pretty hot.…
Walking down the aisle to meet my Groom is one of my most precious memories. It was the fruition of all the years of painful waiting. An event that displayed the Lord’s faithfulness to me.
All of the anticipation of what it would be like to experience oneness with this man I loved so deeply, would finally be realized.
As I took each step, I was fully aware of our God who had paved the way for us. Every foot forward, resembling each day of walking with the Lord until the day we see him face to face. He is paving the path to glorification where we will finally meet our Savior.
Earthly Wedding, Heavenly Joy
My wedding day was more beautiful than I could have ever imagined. From my dashing groom to the cowboy boots on my feet, I had mapped out every detail. Though the flowers and dress were perfection in my opinion, they, along with all other tangible things, were not factors in the true beauty surrounding the day.…
“I don’t know what I’d do if anything ever happened to you.”
“Don’t you know you’re not the first woman to try to change him?”
These boringly predictable quotes came through my car speakers on the radio last week. Again, the objectification of women and distortion of God’s design for sex is promoted as this years “love” story for Valentines Day.
But it’s far from it.
Darker is Not Better
I am not writing this to change the mind of the culture. I don’t expect those outside of Christianity to agree with me. But with each Christ claiming woman I see promoting this movie, my heart aches. It aches for their indiscretion and for the watching world that sees them profess love for the Lord and then pay to see a movie that profanes his name.
Though this article is meant to get to the root issue behind the reason this movie is so popular, I have to address the obvious content.…
Right now, as you read this article, Christian women across the world are silently wrestling with lust. You might be one of them.
Clothed in shame over their failed attempts to fight on their own, they hide.
She’s the single girl who wasn’t taught correctly about purity and God’s design for sex. She’s the married mom of two, who’s struggle didn’t end when she found her husband, like she thought it would. She’s the teen with new desires. She’s the older women in the pew next to you.
And she’s in desperate need of help before it’s too late.
Truly, it’s an epidemic.
This epidemic of women pretending like lust doesn’t exist in all of our lives. We walk around as if we have fully eluded its grip, unscathed.
But most of us, if not all, haven’t.
The Reality of Lust Among Christian Women
Out of all of the articles I’ve written, one has stuck out as most popular by a landslide.…
I called my boyfriend over and over again until he finally picked up by accident.
At first, I wasn’t sure what I was hearing. Just muffled voices stuffed in his pocket.
Then I heard her voice saying, “Did she hear us?!” followed by a quick disconnect.
My whole body went numb and my heart beat so fast I was instantly nauseous. Breathing became nearly impossible and shock was like a physical barrier to the tears that begged to flow.
He’s cheating on me.
Earlier that evening, I had paraded around in lingerie and heels while my photograph was taken. I felt “sexy” and wanted. The culture told me this was who I needed to become in order to be fully desired by men. If I couldn’t stop my boyfriend from looking at porn, I needed to join him by dressing, acting and looking like one of those women. I was a model, surely I was enough for him now.…
For months, I have felt prompted to write about marriage. With just over 3 years of “marital bliss” under my belt, nervousness about what women may say has caused me to bridle my tongue.
She’s too young. She doesn’t understand what she’s talking about.
But I’m reminded that regardless of my age, I am still called to be obedient when God lays something on my heart. With every heartbreaking divorce I witness, the weight of what he’s put there increases.
And so I write.
Your Truth Is My Truth
As I approach this touchy subject I’m fully aware that I do not understand each person’s struggles or trials they face within their marriage. I won’t pretend to know how you feel or the pain you’ve experienced.
What I do understand, is that the truth about marriage is found in God’s Word and that truth, however hard it may be, doesn’t change.…